Make Resistance Your Ally

Here’s a routine that many writers are familiar with:

  1. Set aside time to write with no distractions: no spouse or kids in the house.
  2. Make a cup of chai or coffee. Take a sip.
  3. Straighten up the writing desk.
  4. Sit in front of the computer, or typewriter, or pad of paper.
    Question marks on paper in typewriter
  5. Stare at the blank screen or page.
  6. Fidget in the chair.
  7. Take another sip of hot tea or coffee.
  8. Dust the living room.
  9. Glance at the blank screen or page on the way to start a load of laundry.
  10. Rub the dog’s tummy.
  11. Sit back down at the desk.
  12. Look at the clock.
  13. Begin typing or writing.
  14. Play with the first sentence until it is perfectly written, yet flat.
  15. Put the dog out.
  16. Write the next sentence, which is uninspiring.
  17. Google “writer’s block.”
  18. Let the dog in.
  19. Put the laundry in the dryer.
  20. Shut down the computer or put away the paper, feeling defeated.

Man with lightning bolt coming from hand

Why, when writing feels like plugging in to the electricity of the universe, when creating a story makes you crackle with purpose, do you sometimes resist doing it?

When you’re stuck in the kind of resistance that keeps you from doing something you really want to do, it feels like you’re fighting an invisible force inside yourself.

So what is that force, exactly?

Think of an archer pulling back on the string of a bow, increasing the energy to propel the arrow toward the mark.

Woman archer with bow and arrow

The arrow is anything you intend do to. (Like write a new story.)

The mark is the target you’re aiming for. (Like completing a first draft.)

Resistance is the part of taking focused action where you pull back a little and pause.

Its intention is to help you gather energy and get clear on the mark. So resistance is actually helpful.

However, when you hesitate past the moment when your energy and focus are in alignment—past the moment when you need to take action—you lose energy and focus, and you may give up.

So how can you make resistance your ally? Remember that it’s simply a moment in a process. When you feel it, think of it as a messenger telling you that you are poised to act. And you are the archer. You are the one in control of how far back you pull that string, how long you take aim, and when you let that arrow fly. When resistance shows up, don’t overthink it. Make the conscious decision to let go.

How do you know if you’re overthinking it? You might have thoughts like:

  • What if the arrow falls short or over-shoots the target?
  • What if the arrow hits the target, but misses the mark?
  • What if an asteroid is hurtling toward the house this very second? (Okay, that was a bit of sarcasm to make a point.)

Staying resistant might make you feel like you’re in control. But you’re really letting your fear control you. And when you do that, you’re not getting anywhere.

Birds flying in arrow formation

It’s time to channel your inner Robin Hood! Let the outlaw in you write—or make any kind of art—despite the mistakes you will make. Don’t do the laundry. Face the blank page and stay put!

Let your inner Robin Hood take from your rich inner life and share the bounty with the rest of us. We want to read, or hear, or see, or taste, or feel, or know your art.

There’s only one you, and we’re curious about how you see the world.

The Value of Appreciation

We’re almost a dozen days into the 30-Day Creativity Challenge on the Inner Guidebook Facebook page, and it’s been a blast!

We have a community of creatives, who have a safe place to share their work publicly, and give and receive appreciation within the group.

Multi-colored markers

There are many multi-talented folks posting photos of their original artwork, essays, photography, poems, tie-dye, fabric screen prints, flower arrangements, delicious meals, and many other creative projects.

It’s been wonderful for me to wake up and know that some sort of a creative project is in store for me that day. And I’m not creating in a void; there’s a group of other creative people who want to see what I’m going to post. It’s motivating!

I have fun checking in throughout the day, to see what others are posting. It’s inspiring to see so many original ideas and talent!

I feel more open and connected when I’m appreciating other people’s creative gifts, and I feel more valued when other people appreciate mine. And I feel grateful and honored that so many people are participating and enjoying the process.

Have a wonderful week, and go forth and create!

Mind Fish

Hummingbird in silhouette

This morning, I happened to look out my window and see the fleeting silhouette of a hummingbird. It was gone in a split second, and for a moment, I wondered if I’d even seen it.

But I can recall the outline of that small, butterfly-like bird like a snapshot in my mind. Yes, I saw it.

Sometimes, my thoughts are like that hummingbird—or movement in my peripheral vision. Like dreams from the night before fading from my consciousness, I have to write them down when they come to me, or lose them.

Yellow fish

I’ve had the experience, over the years, of having insights that seem so profound at the moment, I believed I’d always remember them. But then, they would fade away. It feels like these thoughts, images, and ideas are like brightly colored fish in the ocean of my unconscious. A current will bring one of them up near the surface, where I see it hanging suspended in the dark water. Then, in a little flash of color, it dives so deep again that I can’t recall it.

Then, years later, it resurfaces, and I recognize it. I know the insight is not new, that I’d lost it, and if I want to remember it, I must write it down immediately.

I used to try to capture all of my insights and ideas by carrying a notebook and writing them down whenever I had them. I did nothing with many of them, because there’s an energy that happens when they’re fresh that I need to ride like a wave to be able to stay in it, and write from the point of the thought to its conclusion.

Like this morning. I had no idea what I would write in my blog. I saw the hummingbird, made the association with fleeting thoughts and insights, and knew I better catch the wave while there was still energy behind it, and see where it took me.

Woman surfing in ocean

I can’t catch them all. But I can pay attention, and choose when to follow a wave of thought made by a bright, little fish—or a hummingbird—and see where it takes me.

Calling the Muse

Behind all the noise, the world holds its breath, waiting. The space within quietness wants to hold the sound of your voice, the vision of your painting, the words of your story, the song of your spirit.

Silence doesn’t want to be filled, it wants to listen.

Too much noise—sound, thoughts, busy-ness—crowds out insight, and leaves little room for creativity. It becomes hard to take a deep breath, even.

Yet silence can be intimidating, like the stare of a blank page when no ideas come. But if you wait, and still yourself in the center of your own anxiety, what do you experience?

Wind chime bells hanging on rope

The faint sound of wind chimes moving in a breeze. A sigh. The color of a thought. The texture of a feeling. The gesture of what you long to express, and longs to be expressed by you.

Behind the silence, there is a consciousness that holds us suspended in eternity. It is germinating, appreciating—needing—what you are here to do in your precious life, now.

A sun shines. A moon reflects. A flower blooms. What do you do?

When you feel frazzled, burnt-out, or overwhelmed, stop. Take 20 minutes for yourself, alone, away from the inner and outer noise, and just listen. What do you hear?

What is waiting to be brought into the world, by you?

How will you be different after you express it?

And what else is possible?